August 31, 2013
Unconditional Love Prevails
Many people don’t believe true love exists and a lot of them don’t believe in love at all. Other people want to believe in love but don’t know what it is. True love does exist, and it is unconditional because it has no limits such as “I will love this person until they make me mad” or any other limits. Such love is not real and is conditional love. True love is unconditional, but unconditional love is not necessarily “true love” (in the sense of romantic love).
God’s word in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 gives an amazing description of what true, unconditional love is: “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” So what is unconditional love? It is a kind of love that is forgiving, respectful, kind, generous, thoughtful, patient, humble (the other person’s happiness is more important than being right), faithful, without limit, and joyful (it makes you full of joy). Unconditional love is also real because it lasts forever. If you want a great example of real, unconditional love then look no further than Jesus. He died for us to save us from our sins and was raised from the grave three days later so we could all have a right relationship with God.
With such an amazing example of unconditional love, why then, do people insist on making it complicated by either running in the opposite direction when they meet the person they are meant to be with, treating them like dirt, and/or breaking up with them for stupid reasons that if they took time to think about long and hard they would realize is not a good reason to break up with their true love? And even in non-romantic relationships, why do people treat others so poorly instead of giving them the love they claim to have for them? Notice in the definition of what real love is in 1 Corinthians 13, it did not say “love is cruel, full of hate, mistreats others, kicks others to the curb,” or anything else mean that people tend to do to others. That is because these are actions of hate, or at least of selfishness, and not of love.
Fear not though because true love always prevails! When God has written in his book that two specific people are meant to be together (in a romantic relationship), nothing will stop it from happening. There may be delays, bumps in the road, and false endings but there is no end to true love! If you are in a situation where you are in love with someone and you know they are the one you are meant to be with, then have faith that God will work things out when the time is right for the two of you to be together. When you truly love someone, remember that forgiveness and understanding are important as well as faith in God, in them, in yourself, and in your relationship. It takes hard work to make a relationship last, but when you both remember to keep God first (at the center), everything will work out. All relationships have their problems, but the key is to not run or exit out of the relationship when things get rough. Don’t give up when the person you know you are meant to be with has a lapse in judgment and you think you will never get together (or back together if you were a couple but they he or she broke up with you). When it is right, it always works out. Lay your situation, insecurity, fears and doubts, and anxiety at Jesus’ feet and trust him to turn things around for the two of you in the right time. When you trust God to work things out in your favor, he will give you peace so that you can be full of joy instead of pain and misery. It may not happen today or tomorrow, but have faith that the day will come when it will happen and things work out in your favor. And while you are waiting, focus wholeheartedly on your relationship with Jesus and make sure He is number one in your heart and in all areas of your life. Also pray for your true love to do the same – for Jesus to be number 1 in their heart and in their lives in all areas. Then, when it is time for the two of you to be together, you will both truly be ready and you will have a healthy relationship that stands the tests of time and will last.